Hi! My name is Rosana or you can just call me Roxy or Ros for short. I'm from Puerto Rico. 21. Studying Psychology and Science. Love to be at peace and doing things I love & desire with people who I truely care about and who are also there for me when I need them. Love to help my friends and listen.
1. Keep up with the readings, lectures, and assignments. Think of school as a race. If you rest, you end up being behind. But if you know how to pace yourself, you can end up at the desired goal. Even better is if you are ahead, you won’t have to worry. Sometimes, sacrificing social life or extracurricular activities is a must. The key is to never be behind, because when you are, you will find yourself having to work so much harder and still not get a grade any better than a student who kept up and didn’t work as hard.
2. Go to the first day of class. I find it ignorant when people skip the first day of class because they think it is not important. I understand that usually the first day is just the professor repeating what is on a course syllabus and then we are dismissed. The goal of the first day of class is to get a sense of what the teacher is like (teaching style, tone of voice (easy to understand or not), personality) to decide if we want to stay in the course, to determine a game plan, and if it is worth coming back to next class. By being there, we hear the professor empathize key points of the syllabus and also hear things that are not on the syllabus. This helps you set a game plan. For example, the professor might give us a heads up that the last chapter or topic may not be tested depending on the pacing of the course (this is not written or mentioned on the syllabus). Right at this very moment, we are already ahead of the students who are not there on the first day of class, because they don’t know what to really expect. They might even study the last chapter or worry about it cause they didn’t even know that it is possibly not tested. In fact, I find myself valuing the first day of class over the main lectures for reasons that it helps me set my game.
3. Have a game plan. Speaking of planning, it is very important to set up your schedules so that you can get your readings, lectures or assignments done on time. For example, I often find assignments getting in the way of my readings and preparation for exam. We’re more likely to procrastinate working on an assignment because of it’s longer due date, but this affects us by conflicting with our time when we need to be spending it on studying. Instead, if you have a game plan to get the assignment out of the way as early as possible, there will be less pressure for you to ace an exam.
4. See the professors or teaching assistant frequently. Are you really serious about being at school and making a career out of what you do? If you are, then you better be talking to your professors or the teaching assistance. These are the people you need to connect with if you want them to tell you about opportunities or write you a reference letter. One of my professor whom I was really close to said she will refuse to write a reference letter for someone who she doesn’t know well, because she will be honest about not actually knowing much about this student. You want a reference letter that says a lot about you and really shows and seems to be coming genuinely from someone. Imagine a reference letter that says this student is the top student in this class vs a reference letter that says this student is a top student in this class on top of he/she puts a lot of effort into learning the materials, always come to my office hour always ask thought provoking questions and always take initiatives to get involved. The second one is much better, because it says more about you and your work ethics. It’s important to build connection with a professor or teaching assistance because it’s all about having a well-rounded game.
5. Space out your studying. I find it easier when we study for like an hour or two and then rest for 10 minutes than just cramming everything into a one long 3 or 4 hour session. Spacing out your studies give your brain time to process what you are learning and refuels your energy to absorb new materials. Furthermore, studies have supported that spacing out studying time helps you get a higher grade because you remember better. Furthermore, it is important to sleep when you can cause you learn while sleeping and sleeping helps your brain recover.
6. Say no to distractions. Distractions is the enemy to our focus and cause of procrastination. If someone asks you to do something when you have exams, then you may have to just say no. If you have other things to do before exam, then you may have to make cancelled plans. You may feel bad about it at first, but it is okay.
Studies show that studying in different places helps us remember better because our brain becomes more active in trying to make connections. In one classic study, participants were asked to study a list of 40 vocabularies in two different rooms - one windowless and cluttered, the other modern with a courtyard. The participants who studied in the courtyard did far better.
2.Alternate between different types of homework/assignment questions.
Studies suggest that switching between types of questions can enhance test scores. The studies had children in either two conditions: 1) children who would repeat doing the same set of questions before moving on to the next set. For example, first do additions. When done, then move to multiplications. 2) children in this condition would alternate between multiplications and additions. The children who had studied mixed set did two times better on a actual test.
3. Space Out Your Studies
Studies found that spacing out our study periods significantly improves memory. For example, studying 1 hour each night as opposed to a full-cramping session produces better results on tests.
Sometimes you may have a truly bizarre dream, but more often than not, our dreams fall into common themes. Many people dream about similar things, and while we have different thoughts and emotions that influence our dreams, there are similar meanings across these common themes. Here are some of the most common dreams and what they mean:
·Showing up somewhere naked. Many people dream that they’re naked in a public place for everyone to see. Whether it’s at school, work, or in some other scenario, the meaning is the same. Being naked in public represents vulnerability. Perhaps you’re feeling anxious about an upcoming speech, or you’ve revealed personal details about yourself to a new person. Whatever the reason behind the dream, the root of being naked in your dream is the feeling of being vulnerable and exposed.
·Running away from something. Sometimes it’s a bear or another animal, or a dark figure in the shadows, but regardless of what you’re running from, it means that you are avoiding something. It could be an important conversation with someone close to you, a job review, or a confrontation that you need to have. Try to see if there is something in your life that you are avoiding doing.
Do you always give in, or let other people choose, or hide what you think, or never ask to have your way? Perhaps you fear disapproval or disappointing others, and the last thing you want is to make somebody mad. If this profile describes you then you may be a people pleaser … and maybe it is time to stand up for yourself. Below are some tips that can help you with this:
1.Think of five occasions when you’ve said or done something that didn’t really match up with your own wants and needs – but you ignored those in order to please somebody else. Now, take the time to think through what else you could have done to get what you wanted, instead of caving in. Ask yourself “What is the worst thing that could possibly have happened? What were my worst fears, and were they realistic fears?”
2.Examine your fears in a balanced way. Would it really be so awful if a friend got annoyed? Do you need that type of person? What if they walk away? There are lots of other people who won’t demand compliance but will accept and respect you for who, and what, you are.
3.Look at your ability to set boundaries. Ask yourself, “What requests and behaviours are unacceptable to me?” Can you separate what’s normal from what’s unreasonable? Do you know what it feels like to be treated with respect? Are you able to say “no” and enforce good boundaries?
4.Look at your background and your family life. A lot of people pleasers were raised in families that expected full compliance – so their needs were not considered. Instead, they were expected to join in, to keep their feelings to themselves, to do what others wanted, and not ask for anything.
5.Don’t look to others for your self-esteem. It is good to be kind and to think of other people – but you must do that out of choice not a need for approval. And if you let other people determine your self-worth then you’ll never be free to a unique individual.
6.Learn to say “no” without explaining yourself. Don’t think of explanations, or justify yourself, or explain your different reasons, or ask to be excused. You’ll be surprised to discover people rarely take offense - and the people who do are not the ones you want to please!
7.Start to ask for what you want. Start to share your opinions, desires and ideas. Begin to make some requests, and to disagree with others. We’re all individuals with different preferences and healthy relationships are based on give and take.